Romance ain’t dead, people. It just tends to look a little different these days. To wit: this embroidered cotton-velvet jacket from BODE, which takes the guesswork out of which floral arrangement to purchase for a loved one. Worn with a silk-twill shirt from visvim, modern boot-cut jeans from LOEWE and a pair of suede boots by SAINT LAURENT, the effect is sharp but also poetic. There’s a softness to a look like this, one that suggests you might prefer fiction and red wines over biographies of titans and gin cocktails. Add a quartz beaded necklace by éliou to demonstrate that the little details are not beyond your notice.

Netflix and a cashmere throw, anyone? Not all dates need to be blowout affairs. Snuggles on the couch might be just what the doctor ordered for you and your hunny. But don’t mistake casual nights in for an opportunity to be sloppy – even veteran couples want to know their partner has made an effort. This overshirt by The Elder Statesman will do just fine as a cosy layer that still looks intentional. Meanwhile, a cashmere sweater from the same brand is a serious upgrade from your college sweatshirt. We will allow sweatpants, but let’s get them from the cult Californian brand Gallery Dept., shall we? Socks without holes are a must as are house shoes that you wouldn’t be embarrassed to wear outside.

Oh dear. The first date: such excitement, such pressure. Don’t go crazy with your outfit tonight, stick to stylish basics in which you can be your best self. A classic base is a good place to start. Khaki trousers (in a wide-leg, modern cut) from Marni go very well with a blue poplin shirt from Saman Amel. Layer on an oh-so-soft cashmere and silk sweater vest by Auralee followed by a navy blazer. See how we’ve taken collegiate ingredients and made them cool? This is the recipe for success. If you absolutely must flex your style prowess in a most avant-garde way, might we recommend these subverted Derby shoes by Maison Margiela, which look classic, but sport the Tabi split toe? A messenger bag with the LOEWE logo signals you know what’s up.

Finally, we come to the man who is going all-out on this date. Maybe it’s a special occasion, maybe it’s just a regular Wednesday night. Either way, if you’re bringing the big guns date-wise, you should dress the part. We’ve gone for a laid-back suit vibe here, which is elegant without being too I-just-came-from-a-meeting-with-Brad. TOM FORD provides the trousers and blazer, while this silk and cotton blend polo from Dunhill gives the look its effortless cred. Luxurious extras such as tasselled patent-leather loafers (from The Row, of course) and this chocolate-brown cashmere overcoat from Gabriela Hearst nod to where the night is headed. As do a scarf from Italian cashmere experts Loro Piana and this excellent Panerai watch. Good luck.